Don’t be eye candy rather be soul food
Eye Candy is the term used to describe pretty young ladies without much else to commend them but their beautiful looks.
I once had a consultation with the most beautiful looking woman I have ever seen. She was not only drop dead gorgeous but I later discovered an international model gracing front covers of global magazines.
She arrived wearing unflattering baggy clothing and a floppy hat and sunglasses and doing the best she could to appear less attractive than she was.
Her story was such a sad one. She could not have a meaningful relationship as every man wanted to take her to bed and parade around with her on his arm to show her off like a prized doll. Truly a girl in a gilded cage.
When I spent some time with her I discovered she had a most beautiful soul yearning to be seen and heard but it had been so drowned out by her physical beauty that it retreated and been buried deep within her. It took some time for me to coax her soul out of her as she had this protective armor around her to fend off the physical and mental gropers that were attracted to her like a moth around a flame.
She was also a magnet for young good looking ladies who wanted to be around her to find men that she attracted and later spurned. They hoped they would be chosen next.
Needless to say, she was lonely and had no genuine friends who took the time to get to know the real person behind the beautiful facade.
She came to me for some advice on how to find a genuine friend or friends and live a normal life. She yearned to get married and be loved for who she really was. She wanted to have children in this marriage too.
She saw her beauty as a curse rather than a blessing as it was blocking her from achieving these goals.
I told her that she should look for a man who couldn’t see her beauty. I said that her ideal soul mate was a blind man, someone who could only “see” her inner beauty and her wonderful soul.
She looked at me as if I had grown an extra head! She wasn’t happy at such a suggestion and asked me to be serious. I told her I was being serious as I was being “told” that from the Unseen Forces who guide and inspire me in times such as these.
A few months later I heard through a mutual acquaintance who introduced her to me that this beautiful person had indeed met and was now living with a man who had been blind since birth and they were deliriously happy in their relationship.
This Eye Candy was now Soul Food and being appreciated for who she really is- a beautiful soul in an equally beautiful body.